3 Steps to Freedom from Obsessive Thinking – as Inspired by Eckhart Tolle

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Attain freedom from obsessive thinking with 3 simple steps

Thinking – do you control it, or does it control you? In recovery from addiction and in the pursuit of spiritual growth we all come to the great monolith of the mind.

Judgement, ego, desire and pain all flow from the demands of the psyche, deeply embedded in its evolutionary state of survival.

The mind is built to warn you offer imminent attack, and razor wire sharp in its sensitivity.

Nowadays, we really don’t need to be on red alert for some ferocious tiger to jump on your back and rip your throat out every other second, nor prepared for outright war every other moment, yet this is the state our mind is in perennially through years of evolution.

The mind expects danger.

The great irony is that the ways of the mind are built into our being through eons of evolution in order to protect us, yet it is now that instinct to think which destroys us by reframing harmless scenarios, like social events, asking a girl out or witnessing physical confrontation, as potentially deadly situations.

“The moral in dealing with addiction is clear: deal with it, or it will deal with you.”

When the mind controls you, your life naturally becomes little more than an arena of threat, preparation for violent confrontation and fear.

The mind – fantastic and sublime tool as it is – has become a monster within us, as spiritual master Eckhart Tolle articulates in his classic The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment.

Read: Eckhart Tolle’s Vital Read for Men in Recovery

In this malaise, we have begun to seek and form our identification of ourselves through the mind’s perception of the world, rather than via our consciousness itself.

What do you think this means for the quality of our consciousness?

This piece guides you in three simple steps to a place of transcendence, leaving the nightmare of the self-conscious and obsessive thinking mind behind as you enter the formless realm of your true self.

  1. Acknowledge You’re Addicted to Thinking

It may be troubling for you to accept you are exhibiting yet another form of addiction in your life. Battling addictions takes courage, patience and rigorous honesty.

Yet the moral in dealing with addiction is clear: deal with it, or it will deal with you.

As men seeking a life of harmony, strength and beauty, we cannot allow snakes to fester at the foundations of our being.

We must confront them.

Beginning to acknowledge your thinking as an addictive process may well be scary: how on earth, after all, do you exist without thinking? Isn’t thinking what we need to do to survive? How do you even stop it anyway?

The premise of ceasing to think seems insane.

However, as a man seeking freedom from the bondage of his mind, a man seeking to be in the deepest control of himself as possible, you must trust what is beyond it, even though you may have no idea what actually lies beyond it.

From this place, we muster the courage to take the true leap of faith. This is true bravery.

Tolle puts it beautifully: “Thinking needs consciousness for existence, but consciousness does not need thinking.”

If you do this with all of your sincerity, you will not be disappointed.

What you will find here is consciousness itself.

What you find is that which gives birth to our ability to think – is it not here then you should seek your source, as opposed to within the confines of the mind?

Tolle puts it beautifully: “Thinking needs consciousness for existence, but consciousness does not need thinking.”

Take a minute or two to mull that over.

Another paradigm shifting way of viewing your growth away from thinking is as a form of enlightenment.

As addicts, when we look back to our use of intoxicants, were we not trying to escape some unbearable forms of thinking? There were fears, doubts, memories, anxieties and traumas that plagued our being.

We used mind-altering substances to shut the mind up!

This road, as you well know dear reader, leads to hell.

Yet what the move into pure consciousness seeks to do is, as Tolle states “…rise above thought, not below it”.

  1. Understand the mind for what it is

Within The Power of Now, Tolle uses the terms ‘mind’ and ‘ego’ interchangeably.

It helps us to view the mind as pure ego desire as we can then understand the mind by ascertaining what it wants from us.

By understanding the mind/ego dilemma within your realm of being, you can begin to see the limitations it puts on you.

Once we can grasp these, the doors of perception can realign to your deeper self.

Below are a few key aspects of this ego identification:

  • Only the past and future exist
  • The mind is where ‘I’ exist
  • The world is defined by opposing forces (dualistic thinking)
  • The past is the only reference point for being
  • Thinking is the only form of consciousness

What we can take from these key aspects of what your mind is telling you is twofold:

  • There is no present
  • You exist in your mind

If we are to follow this logically, the end realisation is that by following your mind you don’t live in the present because you exist in your mind.

  1. Get present in your body (and balls)

“Life on earth was not created through thinking, there is clearly a great intelligence at work.” – Eckhart Tolle

One thing we all love from other people is positive attention.

Just as a child wants attention from his mother, our mind, childlike as it is, wants our undivided attention all the time.

“Your testicles are a vital area of psycho-spiritual meaning for you as a being, and connecting with that dimension of being not only reconnects you with yourself, but is also a cathartic way to rewire negative sexual energy stemming from years of porn use or loveless sexual encounters.”

We have become so accustom to this, we do not even question it any longer. We have even lost the ability to reason why we’d question it in the first place.

Therefore, our utter commitment to attentive thinking is a process which is extremely difficult to remove ourselves from, we’ve been doing it ever since we’ve become conscious of ourselves as beings.

A brilliant way you can begin to move that attention away from relentless preoccupation with the mind is by focusing your attention on the body.

We tend to view the mind and body as separate (see dualistic thinking above), yet the mind has evolved within the body and is as an intrinsic part of it as everything else.

Therefore, each part needs love.

You can give love with attention.

Lay down, take some time away from thinking about current events and breathe deeply in and slowly out.

You want to breathe so deeply in you go beyond your stomach and into your balls.

Hold the oxygen deep in your balls. Let the deep peace overwhelm you. Exhale slowly.

Crazy as it may seem, your testicles are a vital area of psycho-spiritual meaning for you as a being, and connecting with that dimension of being not only reconnects you with yourself, but is also a cathartic way to rewire negative sexual energy stemming from years of porn use or loveless sexual encounters.

Read: 5 Reasons to Stop Porn

Once breathing deeply and methodically, focus your deepest attention on your toes and feel your consciousness in them.

Let your consciousness rise: feel the golden, warm honey through your body and feel the presence of your own consciousness in your shins, knees, thighs, pelvis, core, chest, shoulders, arms, hands, fingers, neck and skull.

Once you let this envelop your body, you are reaching the place of your true identity – the universe, conscious and looking back at itself.

This place is a place of deep security.

When we touch consciousness by directing ours at it, we must let go and become the watcher of the thinker, the watcher of the emotions that arise in the body, as we watch non-judgementally.

Man, finally, should never seek to attain enlightenment, but let it find him.

Author: Richard Joy

My mission is to get you out of the depths of despair, addiction and pain as we as men strive to conquer fear, grow spiritually and build ourselves physically, emanating strength, grit and determination. Having been lost in the punishing spiral into hell myself, witnessing men around me die in addiction, obsession and pain, I have found the way out by walking the path of spiritual discipline, inner masculine truth and learning from men of wisdom in the spirit of humility.

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