5 Reasons to Quit Porn

Is porn the new opium of the masses?

Voyeur. Pornography
Pornography makes up roughly a third of internet content

Karl Marx once exclaimed that ‘religion is the opium of the masses’, but in the contemporary West the church has taken a battering with a flourishing of enlightenment inspired logical living, redundant dogma and paedophile priests coming out of the woodwork.

With a giant hole in our culture vacated by The Church, the age of instant gratification has flooded in the gaping chasm, scorning the values of discipline, patience and reservation.

For the millennial generation, when you can log in and tune out, entertainment, opinion and sex is and always has been at the push of a button.

Having millions of videos of shedloads of hot (and often modified) women engaging in a crazy variety of sexual gymnastics in every single niche imaginable is the proverbial teenage boy’s dream come true, yet for many the dream is not all it has been cracked up to be, in fact, it’s become a nightmare.

As porn sweeps screens worldwide, mangling men’s minds to a new sexual orthodoxy, the sense of enjoyment from sex, it’s spiritual divinity and the qualities it builds in men who once had to work for it have been deeply diminished.

Below are 5 reasons you should stop watching porn.

1: PORN MAKES YOU IGNORE THE REAL THING

Has it ever crossed your mind that not getting laid is frustrating for a reason? This frustration is clearly born out of an ineptitude in actually getting a girl you like to fuck you. Yet this is not a reason to give up, whack off and satiate yourself – it is actually a gift in the guise of a setback.

It is nature’s way of telling you you’ve got to shape up. It’s telling you that you must improve if you want a mate. Get fit, get knowledgeable, get secure in yourself, get some nice clothes, get non-needy.

If you answer this call you’ll find that the original girl who rejected you was in fact a blessing, and winning her affection is actually not as important to your own sense of self and your development.

Further, if you’re putting in work on yourself you’re likely to encounter a bevy of other women who are of a higher quality, with more shared interests and who are genuinely interested in you.

Sure, it takes time, patience and practice to develop yourself, but just think what the difference would be if you spent 3 months whacking off to porn everyday or 3 months working on yourself and using that primal desire to mate to energise your life and your self-esteem.

Which of the above two roads would lead you to getting with a dream girl(s), being more developed as a person, and even having a relationship?

2: IT CAUSES ESCALATION OF TASTE (AND CAN CAUSE E.D.)

It’s not rocket science this, you use something habitually and you build a tolerance to it, thereby requiring a harder hit to get the original level of satisfaction.

However, leading expert in the effects of Internet porn on the brain Gary Wilson explains in a much more advanced way (with neuroscience and everything) how, with continued use of porn, it can actually rewire the way the brain responds to sexual stimuli.

His work goes along the lines of this: our primitive limbic system in the brain responds to sexual stimulation (i.e. porn) and notes it as a good thing because it releases dopamine.

With consistent usage, the user needs higher doses to achieve the same high (exactly the same as drug users with their DOC) and with dopamine flooding the system with heavy usage, the dopamine receptors in the brain do not develop at the same rate.

You can get a full explanation of this at Wilson’s site yourbrainonporn.com and watch his TEDx talk here

The result of this is a desire to use increasingly harder material (which may overstep your own boundaries) to get the satisfaction that was experienced in the primary instance.

So, with a habit developed to watch increasingly extreme material (which even mainstream porn veers upon nowadays), one woman cannot compete with the thousands online willing to engage in extremely hard-core material, and this can lead to a lack of arousal around the real thing.

Thus we have the modern phenomenon of porn induced erectile dysfunction (PIED).

Fortunately for any guys that have this modern-age problem, it can be reversed by a diet of no porn, no masturbation and a ‘rewiring’ process with an actual woman over a few months.

3: PORN FEEDS LAZINESS AND BLOCKS SPIRITUAL PROGRESS

Much of modern life is geared to convenience and fetishes the slovenly as pleasure becomes paramount in our societies. The desire for pleasure has become so ubiquitous it surrounds our daily environment: fast-food and coffee chains dominate the high-street with a decreasing number of monopolising retailers providing the clothes to wear to feel new, and to feel part of the accept norm.

It may seem a tenuous link between this and pornography, but it is part of the same contemporary culture where hedonism is expected as a human right and the attainment of pleasure is paramount.

This is not to say that enjoying pleasurable experiences is in anyway wrong, but that the centrality of them to our human experience will inevitably lead one to feel lost in an oscillating narrative between desire and satisfaction, which moves one far from the spiritual growth that is vital for a man growing into himself authentically.

Is it not more consuming, with zero negative consequences, to be involved in your passion, be it writing, music, selling, teaching, learning, than to be striving for an external stimulus to satisfy you?

Pleasure and happiness are overrated: they are fleeting states, not end-goals in themselves and we cannot afford to depend on them as maturing men in an ever soulless cultural landscape.

Just try substituting pleasure-seeking practices (such as porn) with activities you find emotionally compelling that fit into a bigger goal. See what happens. Just for a month.

Pornography serves no purpose but to feed a sense of entitlement; it feeds the zeitgeist of this generation – sloth.

4: PORN MAKES YOU OBJECTIFY SOCIAL RELATIONS

This reason, on superficial analysis, looks corny as f*ck.

I began my journey here, stating: ‘I watch porn, so what? It doesn’t mean I think all women are just objects…’ And I sincerely did not, yet I couldn’t deny in the aftermath of masturbating (that lonely place with your trousers round your ankles, sat with a tissue in your hand and a video still playing that once seemed so alluring, but is now sharply seedy and a bit gross, hoping to not catch a glimpse of yourself in a nearby mirror) that I started to wonder about the women who do porn.

It is quite fascinating why ostensibly beautiful women would suck and fuck some random guy for money, is it money, self-esteem, sex addiction? Maybe it’s a mix of the three, maybe none of them…

The point is that it’s not exactly that the issue is it’s wrong for people to be naked and fuck each other, but more that it reduces the human condition to nudity for economic purpose, thereby disqualifying the depth of the person.

This is by no means a call for temperance around pornography, this is just for YOU to consider in an effort to better yourself, what people do to earn money or how they behave is their business, it is only your own behaviour and actions you can modify, so as an individual who is striving to be the strongest and healthiest version of themselves, is knocking one out over another man screwing a girl you like a behaviour you’d like to keep? Is that strong, independent behaviour?

Further, would you like sexuality to be an expression of fondness, passion, love and masculine purpose between yourself and another, or a voyeuristic simulacra in which you reduce the sex to a mechanical practice?

It is oft repeated that it is only natural for men to watch porn a great deal – but when in history has man had such a supply (and of such extremity)? What animal in its natural state sits behind a rock bashing one off while the alpha male screws the females of the pack?

Porn is no more natural than a Big-Mac.

5: PORN BLURS YOUR OWN VALUE SYSTEM

Have you ever considered if you agree with porn?

Again, this is not a call for temperance, others have their own lives and can do what they may, but as somebody striving to be the optimum they can be, it is a question worth considering.

An almost instantaneous reaction to this question is ‘of course I agree with it, it’s great!’ but is this response socially conditioned, from a place of pure desire, or ideology?

One argument against any opinion that is not vehemently pro-porn is that it is religious dogma to not accept porn into one’s life. That an opinion against pornography is tantamount to shaming people for their natural sexual instinct and harbouring a desire to tie the world in a chastity belt.

Yet is the normalisation of pornography in society not a flip-side of the same adherence to dogma around sexual chastity? Both sides display an unrealistic, unnatural and monopolistic attitude around sexual matters.

As porn is so easily accessible and extreme, while being consumed at ever younger ages, certain scenes are bound to be stumbled upon which push the boundaries. Yet how can many people, especially teenagers and young men, be aware of their own boundaries when they’ve become so blurred in the first place, with no guidance on what is normal?

Therefore, as a person striving for clarity of mind, it is worth considering the question “do I agree with pornography?”

You ask this question not in an abstract statesmanlike way to decide if it’s good for society, but to ascertain whether YOU agree with it, whether it benefits YOU and YOUR social relations.

Once you compare your own value system with pornography, it is impossible for there not to be a blurring of the lines.

For instance, if one has a value for all human beings to be treated equally, that we should treat others as our own, it becomes difficult to consider that many performers in pornography are mothers, sisters, daughters, girlfriends and even wives.

If one considers his own relations to these people and considers how they’d feel if these people were in porn, the concept of values and ‘pleasure-seeking’ becomes clearer.

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